Challenge
Your Truth

Moses Farrow, LMFT
Adoption Trauma
Educator

Transform adoption &
transform the future

 
 
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Available in English, Spanish, Korean

 

THE CRISIS OF IDENTITY

There comes a point in your life when you ask yourself perhaps this most important question: “who am I?” What follows is a cascade of puzzles, mysteries, and realizations that are transformative as you discover your truth. Too often in adoption we live in deception, false identities, and constructs that leave us feeling dissociated and disconnected from ourselves. Countless numbers of people adopted away from their origins struggle alone in silence. Uncovering the truth is a process of reconnecting with yourself in the most profound way. If you feel ready to embark on this journey of self- transformation, contact me now.

Transform for Life

ADOPTION TRAUMA IS REAL

I believe that all methods of adoption creates trauma, or as Paul Sunderland says - multiple traumas. This is a bold statement that challenges the accepted notion that adoption is a means to create forever families, save children, and have everyone live happily ever after. However, the truth is out as more parents and adopted people are sharing their experiences of trauma and other adverse childhood experiences. This is why education is so important.

As a society, we have been socialized to view adoption in a monolithic way that is celebrated. Yet, adopted people are pathologized and over-represented in therapy. I ask you to hear me out and begin with these questions I have heard from my clients. “Why do I feel like an imposter? Not good enough? Fearful of being rejected, abandoned, alone?”

For teachers, doctors, therapists, parents, caretakers, guardians, you represent their support system. I understand you are left in a state of despair and confusion too often feeling desperate for any solution. “We have done everything we can think of to love, care, give.” No amount of therapy, medications, hospitalizations, IEDs, seem to help. With the trauma-informed education movement sparked by ACEs and Nadine Harris, the former Surgeon General of California, it’s time we acknowledge the trauma(s) that comes with adoption.

SERVICES THAT TRANSFORM

 

SURVIVORS GROUP

Curiosity and exploration come easier when we feel safe. Moses has created an online support group for survivors of adoption trauma on Facebook. It is peer-led and anyone impacted by adoption trauma is welcome. It serves to provide a safe space for survivors around the world who share their stories, resources, information. While it does not take the place of professional help, over 425 members seek the truth and support.

CONSULTATIONS

It can help to begin your journey on an individual basis. Moses welcomes you to “take the deep dive” and provides you with the building blocks towards feeling safe and empowered. Consultations allows you to explore and learn at your own pace. While it is not therapy and does not follow a treatment approach, Moses is available to support you and consult with your therapist to educate them about adoption trauma and related issues.

TRAININGS

Safety starts within ourselves. When we are aware of what makes us feel safe, we bring that into our relationships, workplaces and communities. Trauma experts are focusing on ways to help us all become trauma-informed. These trainings are for family members, healthcare workers, therapists, teachers and educators and other community leaders. A well-trained support system can be the best prevention we have!

 

Moses is passionate about educating people about the numerous effects of trauma. From neuroscience to sociocultural perspectives, he builds awareness with his clients, organizations, agencies, educational institutions and hospitals and offers ways to help, support and manage the trauma. If you would like to have Moses speak or provide a workshop/training please contact him today.

 
 

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